The Connection Between Self Care And Fruitful Trees
Have you ever thought that we as women can bloom like trees?
Trees need to be taken care of to blossom and yet we can take “that care” phase as an example.
What is the connection between our own self care and the trees?
Think about how you feel at the end of a day when you find your first free moment and you’re too exhausted to enjoy it.
If you’ve had too many days like this?…..
Do you want to shift your focus from self-sacrifice to self-care?
Feel empowered to develop the same fierce and tender concern for yourself that you’ve always given to those you love?
When compared to a tree, and its most significant achievement; its fruit.
Without the flow of sap directing nutrients throughout a tree the potential for it to bear fruit would not exist. Yet equally, if not more important than the tree’s potential, is its need to be nurtured properly.
For in the absence of proper care and nurturing, the tree’s innate potential cannot be fully realized.
On Tu Bishvat, something very special is going on inside those cold, lifeless trees. On this day, the sap begins to flow within the tree. That liquid is jam-packed full of water, sugar, nutrients and hormones. Tree sap carries much needed food and water to various parts of the tree after a long fall and winter. All this happens in order to facilitate the tree’s most important purpose; to be fruitful.
Without its sap, the tree has no potential to fulfill this most important mission, and it is indeed the idea of potential that we recognize on Tu Bishvat.
As mothers, wives, care-givers and providers, when we keep up with our chaotic form of living, we don’t think twice before putting self-care on the back burner. More often than not, it takes a wake-up call to notice the toll this kind of lifestyle takes on our lives. Self-care is not selfish; it’s one of the best things you can do for your family. Self-care is not just about your mental health. It’s also about caring for your physical self, by eating healthy, getting adequate sleep, caring about your hygiene, exercising regularly and being able to daven to Hashem with significance. Self-care is important to maintain a healthy relationship with yourself as it produces positive feelings and boosts your confidence and self-esteem. Also, self-care is necessary to remind yourself and others that you and your needs are important too. Taking a break from responsibilities can cause guilt and anxiety. But a few hours away can re-energize you so you can get back to taking care of everyone else. No matter how indulgent or fancy self-care may sound, it is crucial for our physical, emotional and mental well-being.
You shouldn’t neglect self-care and here’s why, when your wellness account runs down to zero, and there’s nothing there. That puts women at risk for developing chronic disease and mental-health issues; depression, anxiety, insomnia.
“Venishmartem meod lenafshoteichem, Be very careful about your lives,” (Devarim 4:15).
We Are obligated to preserve our health. Practically speaking, this means we should eat healthy foods and do so slowly. It means we should drink plenty of water and eat only when hungry, and not to the point of being 100 percent full. It also means we should exercise regularly and get enough sleep.
One of the hardest things about self care is starting. Don’t you agree with me?
The first thing that needs to take place is a conversation with yourself about your worth, and an honest look at the most effective way you can be the cup that fills everyone else up.